revamping date night saved us a small fortune


It had been a minute since my husband and I had a “real” date night—you know, the kind where you scramble to find a sitter, get dressed up, and eat fancy food. He’d been traveling a bunch for work and we were both just swamped. But we finally found a free Saturday and got to work.

First, we had to find a babysitter. Sure, there’s an app for that but we’ve had more luck going the personal route. We luckily secured one of the three people in our posse, which is no easy feat.

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the unexpected isolation of having twins


Earlier this week, I did the daycare pick up by myself, and I was stressed the whole way over. I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to find a parking spot, and then I couldn’t quite figure out how I was going to get the (non-walking) twins into the car. I’d likely have to park across the street and then, what do I do about the 16 steps that lead up to the daycare entrance?

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life lately.


It's been a minute!

Life has been pretty nuts since the holidays and I think we're finally coming out on the other side. Craig had a ton of back to back work travel which was both good but exhausting. A week of this travel coincided with our nanny's vacation so it's fair to say that I'm spent.

We've been working hard to find out groove post holidays and post travel. We scrambled to get the kids into daycare which was no small feat. We managed squeeze into a great place and finally secured a MWF schedule - hooray! The downside is that we have to drive there but the upside is I have 8-9 solid uninterrupted hours 3x week to get. shit. done. I'm mostly working during that time but it's great to have the leeway to do laundry, make dinner, clean up, workout, etc. The kids had their first day last week and it was SO strange to be home all day without them there. But also really nice.

Speaking of work: my job is great! I'm so glad we made it work for me to go back to work part-time. I'm obsessed with my team at 33Vincent and the role is such a good fit. I like having the flexibility to get work done when I can and also have an outlet to interact with adults.

Craig's job is busy but good. He's really starting to find his groove. Though his travel has slowed down a bit, he does have a trip to Israel coming up in May.

We're still trying to figure out our plans for staying in SF for another 1-2 years or heading back to Charlottesville next summer/winter. There's pros and cons of each. We love living out here but it's certainly city life and things are expensive. Almost full-time preschool for the kids in Charlottesville costs 1/3 of what part-time preschool costs in SF. INSANE.

We booked a somewhat last minute and spontaneous trip to Maui in April and we can't wait. We so grateful that the grandparents are willing to travel to SF and spend time with the kiddos. Did I mention? It's a KID-FREE vacay! Woooo!

The twins are doing great. We just switched to one nap which is...interesting. On one hand, it's great to be able to go out and do stuff in the morning but it also means entertaining them for 5+ hours in the AM. That is a long time with little kids! Rowan is walking a bunch but still doesn't like to walk in public. Reese is getting so close to confidently walking. I'm excited for them to really be walking so we can take more advantage of all the playgrounds in SF. It's hard having crawlers especially with all this rain!

They are learning more words every day and they've gotten really good at signing which is pretty awesome. It's a lot easier to help them out when I know they are signing that they want something to eat.

That's all for now from #teamthomas!

getting my kids into daycare is harder than admission to harvard


I’ll admit I heard daycare horror stories when we first moved to SF. We were scared into believing that since we hadn’t spent hundreds of dollars on deposits before the twins were even conceived(!), we were basically already very behind. I assumed it was mostly hype and that, surely, when the time came, we’d find suitable daycare spots for our kids.

I eased back into work about five months after the twins were born. I’m lucky to have a very flexible, remote job that allowed me to slowly ramp up my hours. I ended up finding an amazing, super part-time nanny to help out for a few hours a day.

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our east coast adventure


Back in August, we bit the bullet and booked a three week trip on the East Coast. We planned to be in Florida with my mom for Thanksgiving and then we figured we'd do Baltimore as well and then why not just make a stop in Charlottesville.

So here's a recap of our trip!

We were originally planned to fly to Florida on the red eye right before Thanksgiving. But the air quality in SF got so bad the week before that we decided to change our ticket and fly out on Saturday night instead. I raced to prep and pack while Craig was stuck in NYC, trying desperately to get back home to us.

We took an Uber to the airport which worked out great. We planned to go to the airport pretty early and hoped that the twins would just sleep in the stroller while we were waiting for the flight. That kind of worked but not completely. Once we were on board, we were all pretty anxious to take off because I knew the white noise would put the twins to sleep immediately.

So the red eye wasn't that bad. The kids slept most of the time but I think Craig and I were pretty miserable as it's hard to sleep with a 20lb baby resting on your chest.

We landed in FL at 8am and then loaded ALL our stuff into the car for the drive to Stuart.

The first few days in Florida were hard as the twins adjusted. They were super clingy but it was nice to have all the space, extra hands, and the pool!

We had a great time swimming, walking around the neighborhood, and eating lots of yummy food. I'm glad we were able to escape the smoke in SF.

The Tuesday after Thanksgiving we flew to Charlottesville, VA. The flight was no problem and the kiddos even managed to nap. We landed around 4:30pm which is a tough time. We were all hungry and tired. A quick stop at Chick-Fil-A quickly remedied that and after a stop at the store for milk, we were on our way to our Airbnb in Charlottesville. We stayed at the cutest little house within walking distance to Downtown which worked out great. We loved visiting the Virginia Discovery Museum, visited friends, and even stole away for a few nights for dinner out and Craig's work Christmas Party.

Then it was time to drive to Baltimore. I was a little worried about the three hour drive because I assumed we'd have to stop at least once. But shockingly, the kiddos slept almost the whole ride and we made it to Baltimore in record time. It was such a treat for the twins to finally meet Grandma Louise and all of our friends.

We had a 6am flight back to SF which was the leg of the trip that worried us the most. It ended up being fine for the most part. The twins slept a few times and we just kept feeding them endless amounts of Cheerios and other snacks. We landed in SF around 9:30am and luckily had the rest of the day to adjust, unpack and settle in. It felt so good to get home to our own beds after being away for three weeks.

The trickiest part of the whole trip was the 4am wakeups we had on the returning end as the kiddos adjusted back to West Coast time. Luckily it only lasted for a few days and now we've all returned to normal.

This trip definitely made me braver to travel with the twins and I was also really impressed with how well they did. Kids are resilient and I'm glad we've been able to give them opportunities to meet so many of our friends and family.

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